I believe in the saying:
“For every thing there is a season
and a time for every purpose under Heaven.”
Many of us considered ourselves “liberated” women in the 60’s and 70’s when we started our adult lives
Now, as we approach the end of all that stretched out before us so many years ago,
we have an opportunity to be liberated again.
Every ending brings a new beginning.
This is finally the season for many of us
in our sixties and beyond
who are divorced, widowed or still married,
to begin a new phase of our lives .
We have been liberated from all the roles we’ve had to play in our lives
and from many of the duties and expectations surrounding those roles.
Some, for the first time,
will be experiencing this new season
without a man in their lives,
due to divorce, death or disinterest!
A life of our own- defined only by us
might be frightening at first,
but can be exhilarating as well.
At this point in time,
We are no longer able to re-produce,
no longer looking for approval or validation,
no longer searching for a mate.
We are comfortable in our own skin-
wrinkled though it may be.
Most of us are retiring or near the end of our professional lives.
We have raised our kids, loved, cared for and buried our parents
and don’t need to tolerate relationships
that sap our energy and waste our time.
Partners or friends who aren’t able to recognize or appreciate the
intelligence, strength, accomplishment and compassion
we have acquired during our lives –
don’t need to be in our lives.
Now there is only time and energy for those who love and support us.
It’s time to become the center of our own lives,
which is contrary to everything we were taught as children
and practiced as adults and parents.
Seize the day, buy the dress, make the move, take the vacation!
Have some fun!
What are you waiting for?
Don’t feel the least bit guilty about it
because we have earned it.
The prospect of this new-found freedom should bring excitement
as we enter this new phase our lives.
Growing older doesn’t seem to have a lot of advantages in this culture
but there are more than a few:
Acceptance and celebration of who we are.
Having no need for validation from others.
Not looking the same as we did a half century ago,
and not caring!
Being so much wiser, smarter and compassionate .
Having the luxury of being spontaneous
Our long standing friendships with other women now take on new meaning, since we have more time in our lives for ourselves.
The superficial aspects of life have quietly faded away
along with our youth.
The best thing is:
We no longer need to be self-conscious at the beach
because NO ONE is looking at us!
The only expectations we need to fulfill are those we have for ourselves.
That is freedom!
I love the saying :
” Aging is not about becoming who we are.
It’s about letting go of who we aren’t.”
Let’s keep letting go of things,
situations and people
that no longer serve us or fit into our lives,
until we are reduced to the most concentrated,
powerful, vibrant version of ourselves:
Older Woman XXX…
We don’t know how many more seasons we might have left, but we should be determined to make the most of each one of them and be grateful for this last and
Most Exciting Time…
Our Season of Liberation.