We should fear the concept of perfection, my friends;
we really should.
It has been responsible for destroying so much joy and satisfaction in the lives of those who pursue it.
I am one of those people.
We perfectionists function within society ,
looking normal and smart and funny and accomplished.
People are always saying: “oh- you are so talented”.
You can do anything.
No, I can’t!
Inside is this insidious voice that always says:” You are no good.”
You must be perfect.
Nothing less will do.
Last weekend, I did flowers for a lovely wedding.
The bouquets were amazing,
the tablescapes spectacular ,
the wedding arch was perfection.( haha)
I didn’t charge her for a bunch of things
because I was trying to make things perfect for her.
But I forgot 4 boutonnieres.
Oh my God!
I cannot tell you how awful ( and incredibly stupid I felt)
I don’t make mistakes like this…..
Aside from the weather, I am always in control!
I am working on the weather thing!
My weddings are always perfection.
( Except for the outdoor wedding a few weeks ago when an entire cake slid off the table
…. due to the excessive heat)
and hit the grass.
I stood there, frozen with horror.
This never happens to me!
This is a wedding planners’ worst nightmare.
I have heard all sorts of horror stories about things going wrong at weddings;
but until that moment,
I had never experienced any of them.
I mean, things go wrong all the time, but nothing I haven’t been able to fix.
That’s what people in my profession do.
We fix things before anyone notices there was even a problem.
So, today…. after two catastrophes in just a few weeks,
I am feeling demoralized, stupid and completely incompetent.
One of my designers said:” Don’t worry, Jan.
Things like this happen all the time.
Not to me, they don’t!
Being good at what you do always brings expectation.
Being really good at what you do suggests you might not have any limitations.
People see what you do and have expectations that nothing will ever go wrong!
So, what do I do?
I suppose I shouldn’t promise perfect.
The thing is- we are all guilty of this!
We all want the PERFECT wedding,
the PERFECT marriage,
the PERFECT children,
the PERFECT House,
The PERFECT Pie Crust
The Perfect Body or whatever…
and it simply does not exist.
We are not capable of perfection.
But when people hire us to provide services to them,
They will settle for nothing less than perfection.
They paid for perfection and they want it.
If it isn’t Perfect- It’s Crap!
Couldn’t there be something in-between perfection and crap?
Apparently not when money is exchanged.
Here is something I can do:
I will now stop promising perfection.
Perfection is only achieved by chance,
brought to us by the Gods of Fortune.
No amount of talent can produce it.
I will continue to pursue perfection because I cannot seem to help myself.
The thing is- perhaps in the process of chasing perfection
I will achieve excellence and
that should be enough for anyone………